Nigerian musician Brymo has sparked debate with comments he made on Instagram about men apologising to women in relationships. The award-winning singer, whose real name is Olawale Ashimi, stated that men who apologise to women when the women are at fault "deserve suffering." His remarks were shared in a now-viral social media post where he wrote, "Men who apologise to women deserve suffering. It is wrong." The comments have drawn strong reactions online, with many questioning the stance as regressive, while a few others appear to agree with his perspective. Brymo did not provide further context or clarification beyond the post. The discussion has reignited conversations around gender roles, emotional labour, and accountability in relationships across Nigerian social media platforms.
Brymo's claim that men who apologise to women deserve suffering reduces emotional maturity to a gendered contest. By framing basic accountability as weakness, the musician reinforces rigid stereotypes that harm both men and women. For Nigerian relationships, this mindset risks normalising emotional suppression and unresolved conflict. A public figure of his stature should know better than to equate decency with punishment.
