Reverend Stellamaris Ajetomobi has ignited a wave of online debate after declaring that intimacy is the main reason she married. In a viral video, the Vice President of The Men of Issachar Vision Inc. stated she did not marry for financial or domestic support, as she already had access to basic needs. "What do you think I came to look for in my husband's house? It's sex," she said. Ajetomobi described marital intimacy as a personal and non-transferable duty. "This assignment, this is the core assignment. I can't pay anybody," she emphasized. She made it clear the act is reserved solely for her husband, warning that engaging with another would draw divine disapproval. "If I do it with any other man, God will frown at it," she added. Other household responsibilities, she noted, can be shared or outsourced. "You can help me cook. You can help me wash clothes. You can help me with my children's homework. I pay teachers to do that," she explained. Her comments have drawn varied responses across social media, with some applauding her candor about marital expectations while others find her framing controversial.
Stellamaris Ajetomobi's unapologetic take on marital intimacy cuts through the usual silence many Nigerian couples maintain, even as Nollywood paints marriage as either a battleground or a fairy tale. Her distinction between delegable chores and non-negotiable intimacy mirrors real tensions in modern African relationships, where spiritual beliefs clash with evolving ideas of partnership. While some may find her words bold to the point of provocation, they spotlight a truth rarely voiced in religious circles: desire, when framed as duty, can still carry weight. In a culture where sex is often whispered about or moralized, her clarity—whether one agrees or not—shifts the conversation forward.
