Relationship coach and lead pastor of David’s Christian Centre, Kingsley Okonkwo, has sparked conversation online after urging men to raise their standards when choosing life partners. In a series of social media posts, the pastor argued that many men are gradually losing interest in marriage because they see it as a financial burden rather than a partnership built on shared responsibilities. According to him, men should begin to prioritise financially independent partners rather than women who depend entirely on them for financial support. “Men, it’s high time we start having standards as well. You guys are too used to women who are liabilities, that’s why less and less men desire marriage, they see it as a burden,” he wrote. Okonkwo further advised men to seek partners who can contribute financially to the relationship instead of viewing marriage as a one-sided responsibility. “Men set standards like you won’t marry broke women too, that you want a partner and not a dependent, maybe it will make more women work and not see marriage and dating as a poverty alleviation scheme,” he added. The pastor described the expectation that men should handle all financial responsibilities in marriage as both unbiblical and harmful to society. “The current system is not only unbiblical but also damaging society. Women brazenly insist on rich men; I think we should also insist on working women that will contribute,” he said. Okonkwo also cautioned men who intentionally prefer dependent partners because it gives them a sense of control in relationships. “Yes, I know some of you men like the needy, hungry and dependent women because it boosts your ego and helps you control women, but it’s doing more harm than good,” he stated. He concluded by encouraging both men and women to recognise their value and develop their abilities, stressing that marriage should be built on partnership, growth, and mutual support rather than dependency.